For a relation to be equivalent , it must be Reflexive(xRx), Symmetric(If xRy then yRx) and Transitive(If xRy and yRz then xRz) .
Option 1 is not equivalence as (1,1) is not present hence violates reflexive property.
Option 2 is equivalence as it is reflexive,symmetric and transitive.
Option 3 is not equivalence as it fails at reflexive property.(all the diagonal elements are not present i.e. (1,1),(2,2),(3,3),(4,4).
Option 4 is not equivalence as it fails at reflexive property.(Since (3,3) is not present)