First convert each number into decimal form.
$$(132)_r=r^2+3r+2$$
$$(45)_r=4r+5$$
$$(221)_r=2r^2+2r+1$$
Now use the given equation:
$$(132)_r+(45)_r=(221)_r$$
$$\Rightarrow r^2+3r+2+4r+5=2r^2+2r+1$$
Simplify the left side:
$$\Rightarrow r^2+7r+7=2r^2+2r+1$$
Bring all terms to one side:
$$\Rightarrow 0=2r^2+2r+1-r^2-7r-7$$
$$\Rightarrow 0=r^2-5r-6$$
$$\Rightarrow r^2-5r-6=0$$
Factorize:
$$\Rightarrow (r-6)(r+1)=0$$
$$\Rightarrow r=6 \quad \text{ or } \quad r=-1$$
Since a base cannot be negative, $r=6$.
Now check digit validity.
The largest digit used is $5$, so the base must be greater than $5$.
Since $r=6$, it is valid.
Final Answer: $\boxed{r=6}$